Without having to look through your threads, where is your husband sleeping? In your bed? If so, I'd think you'd need to change that. Do you have a guest room he could go into? Could you create a "guest room" for him to sleep in?
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09