I think there are different opinions about setting a deadline. My counselor had thought that I should have set one. I had no idea at the time of a realistic deadline. I can see that by me telling W that I will give her until Oct 2008, that she could take this as how long she can have fun before she returns to her prison of marital responsibility.
I think W and I need to have some additional talks about where she has come emotionally through all this and whether she can see our M succeeding. I did suggest the 6 month wait briefly to her this morning and she said she is concerned about hurting me again. She does care about me, but I dont know if it is enough for her to want to abandon her second life.
I am proceeding with my life as if I am D'd right now - except for dating, which I dont plan right away because it is not fair to the other person. I also am weighing my own feelings towards my W. To be honest, I dont think she deserves me. There are much better women for me. I have learned so much in my marriage, and during this last 6 months, that I am confident my next R will be absolutely wonderful. I am not desperate for companionship and can be choosey when the time comes to start dating again.
