Sounds like she managed to get you back on the hook. Seems as if the dynamic changed. She wanted you when you were becoming less available, now is throwing up some roadblocks when you take a step her way. Don't make it so easy for her....if she wants you, then she'll get off the snide, otherwise, assume she doesn't.
I'm not saying, proceed with the D, but I am saying proceed with your life. It's okay to consider her positives (which are probably somewhat distorted by rose colored glasses...be honest), but it's not wrong to consider that she has negatives also...which is okay because so do you. I wouldn't set a timeline necessarily and I wouldn't share it with your wife. You are done when you are done. Why does it rely on her? If she wants to D you, or marry OM, then she can do the D paperwork. Telling her, "I'm going to give this 6 more months", just seems like some form of countdown. Why even mention it?
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
