Well, I got my e-mail from CG last night, and we are on for Friday. Yay!
Good Morning C2H!
You ask:
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On the other hand, we are who we are and if you meet guy where you think there might be chemistry and shared interest, why do you have to limit the amount of contact and draw out the getting to "know you" process?
Well...because it is fun? Also because of my last major relationship (XH) I am wary of trusting my feelings and intuition. I do feel that I am much smarter and stronger than the 23 yr old girl who fell in love w/XH....but even at 23 I thought I was smarter than the average she-bear and should have been able to spot some of the warning signs that would have indicated the kind of H he ended up being.
Also, because during this whole "dating" process...at this stage of life...a whole new set of questions and priorities come up. I have no children at home. I have no (ABSOLUTELY NO) desire for more children. I enjoy my time alone, my freedom, my house. If I feel like being a slob on a day (any day) after working hard for 12 days in a row, I want to!
Back in my 20's a large purpose of dating was to find someone that would be a suitable father for eventual children. I don't need that anymore. I also don't need or want someone to "support" me...in a financial way. I do want emotional support and closeness. I want someone to share activities with and laughter.
So... There you are!
And I think that people are complicated and multi-layered. There are things that you just wouldn't know by speeding up the process. I guess I mean to say I don't know if "more contact early on" translates into "getting to know someone quicker".
Does that make sense?
Anyways, I am enjoying this quite a bit. Have a great day everyone... SG
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker
