M, first off don't even think about how long D takes.It just doesnt matter. You have a child with her which in Tennessee inevitably slows the process. So just sit back and relax a bit.This will only affect you as much as you let it affect you.
I agree with TGF, you do not leave your home. If she wants to complain, she can pack her stuff up and get out.
Stop the conversations with her immediately. R talks are not in order right now. Not for nothing, but what a cowardly way to inform you that you will be served.
FYI...State of Tennessee, your Lawyer can accept service of papers for you to avoid any embarrassment at work or cops at your home.
Look M, the thing you need to keep in your mind is that this is her wagon to pull, not yours. Continue to work on the things you need to work on for yourself. It isnt about making her happy, it is about you becoming a happy person and seeing if she wants to share that life with you. She gets upset, validate her and walk away. Quit allowing her to drag you down to a fighting/arguing level. She is only doing this to make her bad decision seem like the right thing to do. If she wasnt arguing with you,was enjoying your changes, and you were happy, what would her excuse for wanting out be then?
Stay strong M, you still have a lot left to your sitch.
Ian
Thanks Ian. It makes me feel good to know that complete strangers on this board care enough to offer me advice on my sitch. There are times when I feel I can't continue on.
