Have you set some goals, so you'll know if/when there is progress or baby steps?
How are you doing on "getting a life"? You need to do that, if not to attract your husband, at least to prepare yourself for being the best that you can be - for yourself!
I'm wonder if he won't tell you where he is living, because it's a "low-rent" neighborhood? Or maybe he thinks you will harass him and/or OW? Just guessing here. In any case, he is going to do what he is going to do - you can not control any of it. You have to become (or regain) the person he fell in love with, so that when the excitement of OW wears off, you will be his best option.
Anyway, in the meantime Gypsy - all you can do is work on yourself, and use every interaction with H to your advantage. Even if it's just 5 minutes in a week...use those 5 minutes to DB your ass off, and show yourself in a positive light.
DON'T tell him your changes directly! It's OK if your activities come up in the convo, but don't say, "oh by the way, I've taken up lion taming and tightrope walking now". He'll see right through it.
Have a look at other people's threads, to see what they are doing. It helps.
Me: 54 Her: 50 and sexy as hell M: 32yrs T: 34yrs Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection" Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire" She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08! Everything's GREAT!
