W and I piecing this M back together #2

[Rob1231]

Looks to me and most other folks as if your numbers have come up!

But seriously, it must be tricky to keep showing patience with this while at the same time maintaining your own momentum and changes. It would be the easist thing in the world to let things slip and backslide to a place you don't ever want to go to again.

Agreed!

Don't fall into the trap of expecting to go from baby steps to giant leaps just because the tide is turning in your direction. Take it from someone who knows - it will STILL be baby steps for quite a while. But that's perfectly OK - celebrate it!

How about a spot of revision - have a look through your old posts and spend some time setting out your current goals and above all maintain your GALing.

Even if you can't influence W I think you need to keep yourself pushing forward. Time for tweaking perhaps?

An EXCELLENT suggestion. Do this for two reasons.

First, do it for YOU. This "self improvement thing" wasn't just to save your M - or at least, I hope that's what you discovered once you really got going on it. In the end, we must save ourselves first, and hopefully saving our M comes along too. So, keep working on the interesting, engaged-in-life, bigger, better person that GALing makes you, just because that's what you want to be and do.

Second, those changes you made were a lot of the reason your W was re-attracted to you. So, if you need to look at it this way (in other words, if the first reason above wasn't "enough"), then keep it up because it helps your M as well!