So last night, h is usually home around 6-6:30. And the WHOLE time I have been with him, (even during the last 5 weeks of hell), he always calls if he is going to be late. Well, he didn't last night.
I couldn't believe it. It's so NOT HIM to not call. I finally went upstairs, but then came downstairs to check the machine. He actually DID call at 9PM!! And said, really casually, "hey, sorry about the time, I'm on my way home now".
So he gets home an hour later (it takes that long from where he works), and I db'd and just said very nicely and brightly, "hey, I was worried about you!" To which he said, "I was 'hanging out' after work". I just said ok. Didn't show anger or sadness at all.
He goes upstairs to change, comes back down to watch tv (am also watching tv) and I just very, very nicely and casually said, "listen, I don't mind that you went out, but just email me beforehand. I actually had a knitting class I wanted to go to and couldn't. no big deal, but if you could just let me know next time, that would be great".
He said ok.
NOw, it's pretty obvious (at least in my mind) that he was with her. I can't take this anymore. Since I found out about the affair it has really changed things for me, I guess. Even though I know she is a symptom of our marriage this really hurts. It's not even jealousy I feel, it just feel that with another person in the picture (and I have no idea what she is like), it will just make it that much harder to restore our family.
