Well, life is beginning to slow down a bit after that whirlwind week! Yesterday was busy, another 15 hour day. I Taught a workshop after school that went until 7 and then the meeting for my major volunteer group that I am involved in...at my house. (Name of group withheld to protect the innocent! ) BUT...it was good. 10 people at the house and Argo did fine with all the strangers here. Just a little barking and whining, but he did settle down. Just after the last person left, DD called me with the terrific news that she has her roommate situation all squared away for next year. What a relief! The housing part has been a little stressful. She is happy, and so then, am I.
Silly me, not wanting to get attached or anything, but feeling slightly miffed that no e-mail or contact from CG. Tho we do have plans for next week. Just after last week of constant excitement and fun, I am feeling a little bit of a let-down.
Tomorrow I get a nice massage...in exchange for doing some tech support for a friend of mine! Yay! I haven't had one in quite a while.
During the years after the bomb, I tried to get a massage about once a month. It helped tremendously! I really feel it is not a luxury, but a good part of a healthy self-care plan. Unfortunately my insurance doesn't pay for it...and the funds have been a little tight! but I am looking forward to it.
Next weekend is the Second Saturday Art walk in the neighboring town. I like to go to those once in a while. I am hoping CG will be interested in doing that on Saturday...I have a personal reason to want to go, my DD will be featured as a model in one photography show! I hope the pics are the ones I like...I saw a bunch of them from the shoot, and some where better than others.
Well, life is good. Not boring at all! I remember so well the depths of despair from 4 years ago...who'd a thunk I would be so happy now. Not me!
Love SG
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker
Silly me, not wanting to get attached or anything, but feeling slightly miffed that no e-mail or contact from CG. Tho we do have plans for next week. Just after last week of constant excitement and fun, I am feeling a little bit of a let-down.
Anything wrong with sending him an email to get the ball roling? Or are you waiting to see how interested he is? Are the "rules" different at our ages than when we were younger?
I have heard women say they want the guys to slow down (not talking about physical action), not make it seem like they are anxious. In your case you are wanting contact so maybe there is validity to that approach.
On the other hand, we are who we are and if you meet guy where you think there might be chemistry and shared interest, why do you have to limit the amount of contact and draw out the getting to "know you" process?
I don't think I am one for "dating" multiple people but I do thing that when there is a lady friend who seems like a potential good match, I want to start to get to know them as quickly as she will allow it.
If I am in the starting stages of getting to know someone, I am cool with them reaching out to me because I can just get to know them better sooner.
Committed2Him- "C2H" All Things (Back from Spain!)...18
Well, I got my e-mail from CG last night, and we are on for Friday. Yay!
Good Morning C2H!
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On the other hand, we are who we are and if you meet guy where you think there might be chemistry and shared interest, why do you have to limit the amount of contact and draw out the getting to "know you" process?
Well...because it is fun? Also because of my last major relationship (XH) I am wary of trusting my feelings and intuition. I do feel that I am much smarter and stronger than the 23 yr old girl who fell in love w/XH....but even at 23 I thought I was smarter than the average she-bear and should have been able to spot some of the warning signs that would have indicated the kind of H he ended up being.
Also, because during this whole "dating" process...at this stage of life...a whole new set of questions and priorities come up. I have no children at home. I have no (ABSOLUTELY NO) desire for more children. I enjoy my time alone, my freedom, my house. If I feel like being a slob on a day (any day) after working hard for 12 days in a row, I want to!
Back in my 20's a large purpose of dating was to find someone that would be a suitable father for eventual children. I don't need that anymore. I also don't need or want someone to "support" me...in a financial way. I do want emotional support and closeness. I want someone to share activities with and laughter.
So... There you are!
And I think that people are complicated and multi-layered. There are things that you just wouldn't know by speeding up the process. I guess I mean to say I don't know if "more contact early on" translates into "getting to know someone quicker".
Does that make sense?
Anyways, I am enjoying this quite a bit. Have a great day everyone... SG
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker
I am with you that the dating process is or should be fun. I have been struck down twice and as a youngster, it would affect me differently. Now, I don't want to be with anyone who doesn't want me the way I am. In the case of both of my "strike outs," I think both ladies might be thinking I could be a "maybe," one day but the timing is not right. One remains a good friend. The other wanted to back off and continue the friendship much more cordially however I have enough concerns of my own and I really sense this is NOT the woman for me. (Note: we were together for over two years, off an on, when we were in our 20's). With the former there was a lot of contact between us and we learned a lot. I have later learned that she had come out of a relationship in which she was hurt and that may have contributed to her decision. With the former, I had to get to know this person whom I hadn't seen for 20 years. The heavy contact and communication versus the occasional call or email and the periodic date exposed us each to things we each felt we needed to know and I glad I took that approach with both.
I guess everyone will find and stick the approach that is right for them but I just tossed out my thoughts just to get more views and perspecitives out there.
Let me reiterate, so happy to see ya back in the dating arena. "Here's looking at you, kid."
Committed2Him- "C2H" All Things (Back from Spain!)...18
Came home, walked the doggie and did some stuff around the house, then over to my neighbor/girlfriend for a little happy hour on her patio. That was fun!
Then came home and got a call from CG! We had a nice talk. It feels like we are starting to move from superficial, or "surface" issues into more substantial topics. Feels good! And it was very giddy...lots of giggling on both ends!
Watched AI gives back, and then went to bed.
This morning the wonder puppy Argo SHOT OUT THE FRONT DOOR when I went to get the paper from the driveway. Me in my stocking feet and robe. No condition to run and chase. He was around the corner and invisible before I even realized what happened.
Then I turned around and started walking back to the house. Puppy was sitting on the front stoop! How did he do that? I obviously need to have my coffee before I even open the front door.
Have a great day, friends! SG
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker
Then came home and got a call from CG! We had a nice talk. It feels like we are starting to move from superficial, or "surface" issues into more substantial topics. Feels good! And it was very giddy...lots of giggling on both ends!
That is the fun part enjoy, enjoy, enjoy!! Very happy for you, even if CG is not actually THE one and there is an even better match out there for you!
Oh, I forgot, can we now nickname you, "Giggles"
Committed2Him- "C2H" All Things (Back from Spain!)...18
I forgot to mention I am taking a hooping class on Sunday. This will be six weeks of learning tricks and working on a routine. I have been hooping all my life, even won a contest when I was in 5th grade...It has gone through a metamorphosis in modern times. Take a look at this video by Fat Boy Slim .
I was talking with a D'd colleague at work. He divorced a few years before I did and was a good person to talk through as I move through the stages. I told him yesterday that I am "dating".
He said, "In general, or someone in particular" I said "both".
As we were talking he commented that it is so important to wait until the time is right to start dating. And then he said to me, "Aren't you in such a better place now? I mean everything. You aren't in a bad marriage, you have gone through so much growth, life is just so much better now, isn't it?"
And I had to agree.
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker
) BUT...it was good. 10 people at the house and Argo did fine with all the strangers here. Just a little barking and whining, but he did settle down. Just after the last person left, DD called me with the terrific news that she has her roommate situation all squared away for next year. What a relief! The housing part has been a little stressful. She is happy, and so then, am I.
