RTL, I am so glad to hear your W is going to see a C. It is a start. Before the final divorce there are so many issues she should face. She can't have any more children and she will never have the joy of sharing her D with her father. She so needs to face what she will miss, not having you there when your D goes to her first prom, when she learns to drive, gets married etc. Nothing can replace that feeling between parents. Your W needs to face this now and make sure it is what she wants. I am in a difficult sitch in my M. For almost 2 years my H has been addicted to Second World. I asked him to leave for a bit but he is back and still at it. I am trying hard not to throw him out and file but I don't know how much more I can take. My middle daughter is about to get engaged and it keeps me trying. I couldn't bear us not being together and enjoying watching our daughter get married. Our oldest got married last summer, and the problems were starting to escalate, yet the event would not have been happy if my H and I could not have shared our pride in our daughter. These are all things she should face before finalizing the divorce. Four year olds do become teenagers very quickly.
