I double sun dog dare you to try my world famous cinammon sugar sprinkles pretzel pose.
I wonder if keeping the peace by letting the mini-battle opens pass actually isn't a good choice. Is it being untrue to oneself to have a thicker skin and be okay with keeping one's mouth shut about little things, saving one's energy and that of the couple for the bigger stuff.
I contributed to the demise of my M in part b/c I love to debate and play devil's advocate, and my X did NOT appreciate that. It would have been better to do the whole quiet active listening thing, letting her merely vent. You don't necessarily lose yourself when you provide such passes to your partner, IMHO.
The getting resentful part is a RED FLAGfor me, but about me. It tells me that I'm not doing enough self-care, so that's what I do have control over and can stay accountable about.
Sorry about the red flad usage. You can go ahead and throw a flag for that one.
