[quote=M from Tennessee]Update today, M, sorry to hear about the latest drama in your sitch. Did your wife go through with serving you today? Take my advice, do not leave the house, if she wants out, let her leave. I left 4 months ago and have regretted it ever since, once you leave, you have no control of anything with the house. Yes, I'm still paying for the house though I'm not living in it. If I knew then what I know now things would be much different on my end.
As far as MC to be friends, I'm there with you on that also, my W and I have not done any MC but she also believes that we can be great friends after all is said and done. I'm not sure of the rationale behind this, I know if OM comes into the picture which would happen sooner or later, I wouldn't want to be around her at all. Is this selfish, maybe so, but it is the way I feel at this moment, maybe later my feelings will change on this matter but I do understand what you are saying and I'm exactly the way you are on this matter.
I'm sorry your sitch isn't any better, just last week I thought you had a lot of positives going for you. I think this inconsistent thinking with your W tells me that she isn't sure of what she really wants herself. Keep doing your changes. She is in denial right now that they will stick, I know because that is what I hear too. BTW, what is the process in Tenn. on divorce, is it a certain amount of time that you must be seperated before a D can be granted, in NC it is 1 year.
Good luck and keep your head held high, easier said than done but you are not done with this yet, there are too many things going back and forth for you to give up now.
Well, I posted this this morning from work but little did I know that my W had left me a message on my cell, which was in the car, that basically let me know that she was having th D papers served on me today. She said nothing of this in our conversation over the phone. I am sitting here anticipating the D papers arrival any moment. I have tried to be at peace but am struggling emotionally. It's very hard to hold it together and being a 44 year old man, I know it's not very attractive when I cry. I guess the question is Now What?? When the papers get to me I have 30 days to answer. She mentioned she wants to keep attending MC in order for us to work out our differences for our daughters sake??? I went to MC to save the marriage and to be honest, I don't know if I want to be best friends with her if our marriage is over..I mean, I want to be nice around her with our D, but that's all. I sure don't want to have to deal with her mother if I'm not married to my W. Any Suggestions, comments at all. I'm sort of lost.
