Thank you for your reply. yes, I read the book daily. I have totally looked at my end. Up until a week and a half ago when I found about the affair I was TOTALLY looking at my side of the street.
I denied him sex, would rush him in the act (literally), bitched at him, didn't help around the house and went through a depression last fall.
I know my part in this and I have been doing 180's. Getting dressed to kill daily (I totally let this slip for a long time), helping around the house, giving him space, not critising him, etc.
But now that I found about the affair, I've had some backslides, but I'm back to db'ing.
He still isn't home (should have been home over an hour ago) and it's taking all my will not to call his cel to ask him where he is. I want to, but I know it will be counter-productive.
