mary, have you read DR? I know you talk about how you're "dbing," but so many questions you have and actions you take and/or want to take make me wonder. I'm just curious as to how much you're trying to understand what really needs to be done LONG TERM (i.e. for you and for saving your M). You want immediate results, but the likelihood of it happening that way are slim to none.
Please just answer that one question for me. Also ask yourself how much you've looked at YOUR contribution to the breakdown of your M. What do YOU need to change about yourself to become a better W -- the kind of W that your H or most any other man would love to be married to.
It's time to be brutally honest with yourself -- what have you done wrong in your R, and what behaviors do you believe need to be changed? It seems that everything I've read so far is blame towards your H. H did this, H did that, etc. Ask yourself why he has gone somewhere else to get his needs met (which also means you need to determine what his needs truly are and how you've not met them and why).
