Dance, Thanks for the further input. I did go and read your story and it was very helpful. I am really trying to decide what I want to do about my marriage now. It has gotten to the point where I secretly hate my wife. Too many years of rejection. She does know how much the sex means to me. We have talked about it and both of us read Love and Respect, which does an excellent job of spelling these issues out. Who knows, maybe I am a clumsy lover like your ex was. Either way, in my mind, I am about done with her. The only thing keeping me around is our children. The basement option with a later divorce seems better to me as at least the kids will have both of us physically together. You are also right about not expressing myself to my wife. I am tired of doing that. To her, I am always in the wrong. My looking at porn was equal to an affair in her mind. I am the pervert for having a sex drive etc. I also have always felt she was going to leave at some point. I come home every day half expecting to see my clothes in the yard. She did it to her first husband and has threatened to to it to me often enough. I wonder if there is a way to test for sexual compatability before marriage. Certainly pre marital sex isn't it. How do you stop a nympho from having sex? Put a ring on her finger!
