Please help...need MLC advice

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stop apologizing...pity parties happen...next time we will bring beverages!!

Ooooh. Beverages!

I was an elem. teacher, but I have been staying home for 14 years. I can ask for spousal support since I have been out of the workforce for so long, but in Texas there's a max. of $2500 per month for a max. of 3 years. Nothing to sneeze at, but small compared to what our family as a whole lived on.

It does make me more than a little bitter that I was the one who worked and helped put him through medical school, I was the one who studied with him, went through the stress and the strain and the poverty of internship, residency, and starting up a new practice, I was the one who scrimped and saved and counted every penny (literally!) so we could get by, and then still did it even after he started earning good money so we could pay off all our debts---with the promise that by living so frugally we would be set for the future at a relatively young age.

And now that time finally comes, and for about 2-3 years I finally got to enjoy the feeling of being able to go to the grocery store without worrying if a utility bill would bounce, I got to buy a new pair of shoes for myself or school clothes for the kids without huge guilt, and then H jerks it all away? And not just that, but he's going to gift it on a silver platter to this 21 yr. old 'ho whose done nothing to help earn it??? Too bad, so sad, see ya? What the h*ll is up with that?????

Whew! <deep breath in> Sometimes ya just got to let all that out, ya know?

I know that asking those questions doesn't help anything, and I can't let it make me bitter long-term, but sometimes I need to just spew. I can't say it to him, so you get to hear it! LOL!

It may help to look at your budget and see where you can save some money. It will make you feel empowered because you can control that.

Focus on things you have control over, it will make you feel stronger.

This is true. H always listened to Dave Ramsey and we followed his Financial Peace plan for a long time. (No more for H---that's just one more thing H has tossed out of his life and he's gone seriously into debt.) I have been attending the Financial Peace University class at my church for the past couple of months. It does help me feel more in control by getting organized in that area.