Any chance?

[Bill_S]

sometimes the best thing is to back off. The more we hang on the more they want out. I chased, pleaded, cried, got angry, used logic and emotion and you know what she saw? Not love, a pathetic man she couldn't wait to get away from. When I turned away she admitted she started to get scared about losing me but I wasn't consistent and I would come running back. Not anymore. If she wants what she chose she can have it (yes I still love and miss her) and if she changes we can see..... in the far future. In the meantime I'm trying to GAL and going dark. I think thats what was partly behind the sudden contact Monday. Today ran into her at the bank. She complained she didn't know where her money goes, told me
how much she had yesterday and now today and I just said " subtract $200 more", she owed me. Then I just said " yep, there's always something" and walked away. Very unusual for me. Maybe a wake up call for her. If not then at least I'm on my way to getting over this. Just remember I've been dealing with this for 5+ years

Maybe " letting go" for now is what she needs. Open the door, do something different. Give up control. Give up trying to fix things. It may make her think. But get more advice before you do it.

Bill