I am trying so hard to hold on but this is getting so difficult. H has taken over a new identity and has detached completely from me and d. He does his twice a week visit and nothing more. No phone calls, texts or emails. He is on leave and will not even come see her. He is completely consumed with his new life, his ow and his easy entrance into the music world, one he could never do on his own.
It sounds to me like your H is an early "honeymoon" phase of the R with OW. My H went through that and it was so tough since I was living with him during this & I think the whole forbidden thing about it made it even more exciting for them, they were conspiring against their spouses which made them have a strong bond, it was mostly texting and occasional hotels, and not a real relationship. Now that my H has moved out he has started spending lots of time with the kids & seems less obsessed with OW now that it's less of a fantasy relationship. So I do things will get better in that regard for you & that your H should realize at some point like my H that spending time with the kids is important. I think my H realized b/c he moved out and the kids weren't upset at all!
I don't know if H will ever return or we will have a real marriage again, but at least sometimes he acts a little more normal and he's less obsessed with the OW (although I think he is still in the throes of MLC). Karen
Karen
