I'm months ahead of you, LMG, my bomb was dropped in July of last year. The calm came to me about January. It takes too much energy and negativity for me to be angry. I can't change some things but I can change how I approach things. I can make this more or less difficult for my kids and I've decided to do things I can for them.

My H? He's the broken one. I can do things to better myself as a person and if he can't see what he has is worth working for, worth holding on to, then I ultimately can't make him. I'm trying to look at the forest, not the trees. Or the dam prickle bushes either!


Me: 42/H: 37
T: 10 years/M: 8
D9, S8
Bomb: 7.23.07
Separated: 1.20.08
D Final 3.19.09
Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09

My life is good.