Neecy, this is just my opinion, and you certainly have the right to choose as you wish. However, after the severity of H's actions the other night, I think it would be good for him to remain out on his own for a while.

If you hand out conditions now, and let him back in before he even begins to work on his issues, well I'm afraid that you'll just be setting yourself up for another bad situation. If he's let back into the house this soon, nothing will change, and it's just a matter of time before he picks up another drink and becomes enraged again.

I think you need to give the BOTH of you more time. Show him it will NOT be that easy anymore.

He has got to stop taking you for granted, and YOU HAVE TO STOP LETTING HIM.

(((Neecy)))

Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell