Thank you, Keep hitting me the 2 x 4's till i DO get it. I did see a lawyer last May. She did advice me off my rights, but i agree the sitch is different now. I'll make an appointment to see her again this week if possible.
I have just replied to his email by taking the option in his last sentance and said - 'ill leave it for a while, i need time to think'.
x evie
P/A confirmed 5/03/08
03/08 H said affair over, I dont think it is, h still doesn't want marriage
T: 13 M: 8 D:20 & 17 from Previous M S: 8 & 4 BS: May 07 ILYBNILWY S: 13/10/07
That's fine - can we not leave it to long please - we both need to sort it out - I am really struggling with finance and I am fully aware that its all my fault however I don't want to become despondent with work or the business especially the business, I am not having any money from the business at the mo except for petrol - all the money is going into the joint account.
If you want help in trying to understand the mortgage etc please ask
P/A confirmed 5/03/08
03/08 H said affair over, I dont think it is, h still doesn't want marriage
T: 13 M: 8 D:20 & 17 from Previous M S: 8 & 4 BS: May 07 ILYBNILWY S: 13/10/07
Sorry I haven't been about Eve - I did see H's original email but been having piggie problems and PC problems ... didn't get the chance to reply.
I would have said ignore this email, you asked for space and he's not agreeing to that. Your reply to him though was spot on.
So - his second email ... well yes he's probably struggling finanacially but he put himself there! I'm sorry, he is asking for sympathy from you again like he did at new year. If I was in front of him now I would say "JUST GROW UP!!".
Going to get a bit heated ... so f'ing what about his financial problems. Tough sh1t. You asked nicely for space and if he needs money well it's not up to you to provide that for him. you have been above board in all dealings so he can frankly take his begging emails and shove them where the sun don't shine.
I agree with 25 year - get thee to the lawyer. Although I feel anger at your H you showing him a lot of anger will not help. Firm but fair is the line.
Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05 Seperated Sept/Oct 05 Oct 06 - H recomitted July 11 - I am now a WAW.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Eve, i need to sit down with you next week olease to sort things out - please can you let me know what day and what time. its been almost 7 months now and i would like to sort things out for both our sakes. The business, houses, etc. I have never been tight with money and have no intention of being a b*****d and i hope your not going to be a queen bit*h - i would like tobe completely fair. we have worked so hard for all we have and dont want to throw any of it away because of anger - can you let me know please.
P/A confirmed 5/03/08
03/08 H said affair over, I dont think it is, h still doesn't want marriage
T: 13 M: 8 D:20 & 17 from Previous M S: 8 & 4 BS: May 07 ILYBNILWY S: 13/10/07
If the A hadn't been made public wht would he be likely doing? Not pushing this way to get the finances sorted is my guess. So why, is my question, is he in such a stinking rush to get it sorted now?
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
So in his mind, this leaving of his took place 7 months ago and what's been going on since then? Has he been trying to let you down gently, or has he see sawed back and forth? Has he wanted to ML and or sent confusing signals? I mean, I know you felt that he was sending mixed signals since he contacted you so much, but was there anything else? I'm trying to understand what he thinks has been going on now for 7 months...as if you won't budge or something.
He doesn't get why finding out about the A is such a set back for you or that until the A came out, you held out a lot more hope than he had, or than he admits to having. I think??? (( j-)
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
