Thank you for your thoughts. I have read the Sex Starved Marriage, it was how I found this site. We have tried counseling in the past and that did prevent a divorce when I told here about the porn. However, she has repeatedly stated she will not go again as it was just too painful. Like I said earlier, she has any number of good reasons not to feel in the mood. On the other hand, I have any number of good reasons not to fulfill her emotionally. In other words, neither of us has an acceptable reason for not providing support for the other. I am currently trying to decide what to do. We cannot afford a divorce and I don't want to do that to the kids. I am considering permanent roommate status and moving to the basement. It recently interested me to hear my wife complain about a couple we know where the husband had an affair. Turns out they have not had sex in five or more years. My wife sympathised with his wife who was upset at his behavior, but I started wondering what right his wife had to control his sexual behavior after not participating for that long... By the way, my son is doing very well.
