I can foresee a time in the future when the anger has subsided and perhaps the notion of friendship could be entertained, but I'm not there yet.
I don't know that I'll ever be there, angry or not. Another conundrum I have is that I don't see him as a friend. Friends talk to you at least fairly easily (we're not even talking big stuff here) and you can call them to either talk about stuff, just catch up or b/c you need a favor.
We (obviously) have communication problems, but getting more than three words in response to something (more likely to be one) has been like pulling teeth. I can banter on and I get little to nothing. I get quiet, I get little to nothing. I'm fortunate in that he does put money in the bank for us. Truth be told though, if he didn't I'd just go to plan B, C, D etc. I would not call him about it. He is not someone I would ever call for a favor and it's b/c he has such difficulty talking about anything to me. This isn't to say it's his fault. Clearly, I've shut down here. I just don't know what, if anything, I should do about it.
