Hope4us' Struggle, part 2

[Hope4us]

thanks for all your support guys.

I've typed up a letter I'm going to give her that outlines what I require to give our marriage a chance. It's pretty simple.

1) No contact. No contact letter approved by me. Blocking his email/IM address. Discuss what we can do to ensure no contact. I state if she slips and makes contact but tells me about it I will not be angry. If she makes contact and I find out and she hasn't told me or lied to me about it I will immediately see a lawyer to begin separation proceedings.

2) She gets rid of all Affair baggage. Victoria's Secret wear that she purchased specifically to be with him, pictures, cards, notes etc. Told her this will go a long way towards showing me she's serious about trying to make this work.

3) Either pro-marriage counseling or some books of my choosing on how to recover from an affair.

4) We share with the kids these three things so if she fails to do any one of them they will know why I'm seeking a separation/divorce.

The letter is a lot longer than that. I talk about radical honesty, working on trust, her lying to me about OM's planned visit a couple weekends ago, etc. But those 4 things are what I require to agree to work on the marriage.

what do you think?