Well, I've done it all, GAl (not so good at this but working on it). PMA, doing it.....
what is so attractive about this woman....I have been DBing for about a year....and there is not one change, AT ALL!!!
I wish someone could tell me what to do....I try to ignore him but thoughts of him and OW fill my head and it makes me sick...seriously.....I'm not a good DBer....altough I have not brought up us, the R talks, the big D.....nothing....what is he waiting for if he wants to be by himself....he says he's not trying to disrupt the kids' lives but what does he think he just did??
It's so frustrating...I love him but I want to hate him....
I have all the same thoughts as you too! It really just sounds to me like your H is going through MLC which I believe mine is also (they are the same age I noticed as well). I think our H's are probably confused and don't even know their own minds or really what they want to do from what I can tell after emails & talks with my H.
They can't communicate well b/c they don't know what is in their minds, change their minds from day to day (probably minute to minute), etc. I have read in the DR book and other places that it can take a few years usually for the MLC so you probably still have another year or two until he is out of the MLC (as do I)!
You mentioned you've been DBing for a year and there is no change. Well, I think if you focus on yourself you will find a lot of positive changes in you, and then you may find H is more attracted to you or not, but at least you should be able to get your H & OW out of your head all the time if you are busy GALing & improving yourself. Figure out what you need to work on or that you would like to improve about yourself and then do what you need to do to work on those and also find activities that you just enjoy.
And what is so attractive about this woman? In my H's case the woman is not attractive & obviously doesn't have great morals (she is also married with children & was a friend of mine.) She has been married already 2 times that I know of. Her kids are dysfunctional; she allows her 13 year old dd to drink & go out, etc. From reading on these boards, I think many OWs are dysfunctional or they wouldn't get involved with married men of course!!! If my H ultimately decides that is a better woman for him than me, then really I feel it is his loss & have to feel a little sorry for him! Karen
I think our H's are probably confused and don't even know their own minds or really what they want to do from what I can tell after emails & talks with my H. 
I have read in the DR book and other places that it can take a few years usually for the MLC so you probably still have another year or two until he is out of the MLC (as do I)! 
