He has told me thru tears 2 years later. I was very hard to be with. That my moral conviction, was something that he could not stand up to.
That hurt me and screwed me up for a long while, I still get flash backs of it.
But, what can I do? I have changed what i think was wrong, but my morals will not change for anyone.
Ah Liss,
I think a lot of the WAS feel like that, and it really doesn't say anything bad about you. If you put your "goodness" in his face everyday knowingly, in order to be mean, that would be one thing. But if you just live your life as a good person, that's nothing to be ashamed of or change about yourself. The fact that he felt he couldn't live up to that is not your fault.
I'm sure my stbx felt the same way. He used to tell me repeatedly, with a sort of awe, that I'm such a good person. I was like, I'm just a person. I'm not perfect. But when someone feels bad about themselves, they can often see a reflection of their worst self in someone else's goodness.
J was so lucky to have you for the years that he did, and he does know it, Liss, he does.
Love, Nicola
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Well this really is very telling isn't it? J thinks so little of himself that he'd rather be surrounded by dishonestly than goodness. I imagine a lot of the ex's, whether they realizie it or not, have issues with the way they chose to handle their problems and the kind of people they've chosen to be. Think about it, would you want to live with and have to look the person in the eye that you have done these kinds of things to? Not me. No way, but you do get what you give!
I imagine a lot of the ex's, whether they realizie it or not, have issues with the way they chose to handle their problems and the kind of people they've chosen to be
well put Beth, I never thought about it like that!
found out about affair 8/06 H moves out Nov/06 D final 8/07 X re marries OW 5/08 _________________________ Courage does not always roar, sometimes it is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying... " I will try again tomorrow". -- Mary Anne Radmacher
Siiiiiiiiiiiiigh. you guys are wonderful like melted M&M's in the popcorn, and you get a great seat at the movie theatre, and you are there in time for the previews.
Like you keep eating the popcorn, and then all of a sudden you get that chocolate surprise, and you make that smile, like yay chocolate!!!! in the popcorn!!!!! that shouldn't there, but it is, and life is good.
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felt the same way. He used to tell me repeatedly, with a sort of awe, that I'm such a good person. I was like, I'm just a person.
it's one of those things that seemed to be scripted, H too would repeat so often "how can you still forgive me/love me/want me?"
In the WAS hearts at some point they feel empty/void of anything good. H turned into a cynic: the world was full of liars, no one to trust, to watch for your back all the time... what a sad way to live.
That's why they can't understand goodness, H even told me "if the sitches were reversed, I couldnt' forgive you". Come to think of it, that should've told me right there were things were going to head.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Like you keep eating the popcorn, and then all of a sudden you get that chocolate surprise, and you make that smile, like yay chocolate!!!! in the popcorn!!!!! that shouldn't there, but it is, and life is good.
Is it signigicant that I've never found a M&M in my popcorn?
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
I imagine a lot of the ex's, whether they realizie it or not, have issues with the way they chose to handle their problems and the kind of people they've chosen to be. Think about it, would you want to live with and have to look the person in the eye that you have done these kinds of things to?
So So Sooo true! I've actually heard my ex ALMOST admit to this!
Hi Lissie! love the popcorn/m&m analogy, thats IT right there!
Have a good week Lissie!
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