BT, it concerns me when I read comments like "I just want her to be happy no matter what. I don't worry about me, just her and the kids." You cannot save your M if you value W's happiness above your own. Would you want to be with someone who doesn't value his or her own happiness? Part of saving your M is taking care of yourself, there is nothing wrong with wanting all to be happy, that is admirable, but include yourself in the equation!
