Slippage

[newnamenewlife]

Right now, I don’t really want to see or talk to him (yes, I am angry to some extent), it hurts and I don’t want or need anymore of that.

This is exactly what I'm facing as my H talks more and more about needing to move out. I think it's OK to set boundaries for yourself. The kids come first, but the mom's comfort level is a BIG part of what's best for them IMO. The WAHs are the ones who want to just be friends and keep everything but the M mostly the same. For me, it's a package deal--if he wants out of the M, then he is no longer a resident of our house, period. I can foresee a time in the future when the anger has subsided and perhaps the notion of friendship could be entertained, but I'm not there yet.

But I digress... sorry. Grace, you have a good head on your shoulders and you seem to have risen above it all in many ways. It's NORMAL to feel conflicted about this stuff and healthy, I think, to put yourself first once in a while.