Thanks very much for your kind words of encouragement. I am under no illusion that a reconciliation, especially the beginning would be very very tough. I still don't consider myself to have that chance yet and won't do until she makes good on her pledge to move the rest of her stuff back in.
The biggest problem for me will be trusting whether W has truly let OM go or not. Geography would keep them physically apart but I am also (dare I say it) terrified that she'll just go again. That fear may be healthy, but it certainly wouldn't be healthy to have it overwhelming me.
Can I ask you saffie, did you and your H separate or did you live together whilst the A was in full progress? Also, did your H require a few months to mentally let go of OW? I would expect letting go of OP to take some time. I took me well over a month to let go of caffeine when I quit and I imagine an OP would take far longer.
You have been at this a long time and I sincerely admire your strength. I hope that all the hard effort has been worth it for you.
best,
GH31
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
