I used the line: Let's not play Clinton here... not... I won't phone her ... but say nothing about THEM phoning the spouse etc.
NO CONTACT means exactly that... NO contact. You break it... you're done.
That's what I pushed for yesterday as well... and again this morning... now... I sit back,... work on my relationship (friendship with him)... and see what happens over the next month.
At some point you have establish the boundary and be willing and ready to stick to it. That's where it sounds a few of us are really at.
Yes, the walk away spouse will go into selfish confused mode,... have to ignore much of what they say and half of what they do etc... but boundaries... at some point for our own sanity and the safety of our own and kids mental self... ya gotta push the ball back into their court and stand with your hands on your hips til they do the right thing.
Abbey
T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.
