thank you nik. I am finding that when I db for real and for ME and ME only, things are better, both with h, but for MYSELF. It's so key. I've been in al-anon for years (mom's drinking) and it's all about detatchment. I'm getting back to the program because it works.
I was tempted again to get his cel phone -- it was just sitting there, but again, I didn't. I don't need to do that. I know he's having an affair and what am I going to gain by getting her number? Call her? I don't think so. That kind of stuff keeps me in his circle of insanity and I've decided to step out.
