I havent read your whole situation but the following jumped out at me:
Originally Posted By: fooled again
I have decided that it's time for me to "do something different". I have to figure out how to put into words that I am "dropping the rope". I have to finally tell him that though I love him and I want him in my life, I will not play his games any longer, whether or not his games include OW. FA
If your going to drop the rope dont tell him just do it. Let your actions speak for themselves. There is no need to have a conversation about it. If you are detached you dont need to talk about it you can just go ahead and do it because that is what is going to work for you. He will get the message and I 100% believe it will have more of an impact if you show him with your actions that you are not going to play his games rather than have a big emotional conversation where there is pressure for him to make a verbal response. And we know tha you are detaching because you love him, and I think that they can sense that too. Someone that is centered and detached and joyful is so attractive. Just let him go and get on with your life, and it may well attract him back.
I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I know its so hard . Thinking of you.
