Hope4us' Struggle, part 2

[Hope4us]

Thanks Puppy, Sara. I think you guys are right on. Talked to WW for a while last night and I just really didn't feel like she truly wants to try and make it work. More like, she saw that DS15 was going to live with me if we separate and she didn't like that so she's going to say and do whatever she can to carry out her 2 year plan to leave when he graduates.

I told her at one point that she would have to do a number of things for me to even begin to consider not going to see a lawyer. She asked "like what"? I said the first thing is NC with OM for life. No email, no phone, no IM, nothing. And I need to be able to believe and verify that. She said "what, you want to look at my cell phone some more?" I said, "if I feel a need to. But what about work email/phone/IM"? She asked what I wanted so I told her a NC letter telling OM that you never will see or communicate with him again in any way. She replied "I already did that". I asked when? She said "today". So I asked if she sent an email and she replied, "uh....no, it was an IM." I asked her what she said and she replied "just what you said, I told him I couldn't talk to him again and he replied 'I hope you can work it out'".

I don't know about you, but that sounds like a B.S. story to me.

The whole time I just got the feeling that it was like you said Pup, she was sorry she got caught. Nothing more.

I also said to her that I didn't believe her contention that she has no intention of seeing him or being with him again because of those text messages I saw last weekend. She still sticks to the story that she wasn't going to see him. I repeated the TM conversation between her and GF and said "I'm having a hard time believing you". She said "It's the truth. It was just some back and forth conversation between GF and me, it didn't mean anything".

So there we are. I'm going to send her a note today telling her I thought about our conversation quite a bit last night and I'm just not ready to commit yet and list out the reasons and ask her what she plans on doing to make me feel more comfortable that she's not just air mailing it in.

I just got the feeling that the only reason she's saying she wants to work on it was because she feels DS15 slipping away from her and she's manipulating me and him into getting what she wants.

I'll keep you posted.