Please help me! Wife wants out! (5)

[steve477]

Hi Sandi, Thank you for making sense. That is the good thing about coming here. I already know in my heart what needs to be done, but I need to hear someone else tell me too.

Sweetie, you are pushing again. I know it is so hard, but don't blow it now. You've come a long way...baby stepping it just like you are suppose to. You are just getting horny!

I know. Not just the horny aspect, but what a step that that would symbolise.

It would just turn me off that much more. Even when he didn't say anything, I could sense it and it was pressure on me.

Makes sense.

Stop and think where you were just a few weeks ago. Slow down and don't push. She has come a long way, Steve. But, until she is ready to turn lose of the OM, I wouldn't be looking for too many kisses anytime soon. Don't be counting on any for your birthday.

Yes, more than ever now, I stop to think where I have come from. And that gives me hope. I feel now like (analogy alert) I have got the 4 corners of the jigsaw in place, have done the hard part. Just got to fill in the middle now. And the little voice in my head already told me not to expect a kiss on my birthday. Hate it when that guy is right!!

And.....don't you dare...DON'T YOU DARE ASK HER FOR A KISS!! A woman hates that in a man! Did Rhett Butler ask Scarlett for a kiss? I should say not! He took it....but don't try that just yet. (lol) BTW, have you see the movie yet?

I have not asked for a kiss, I have flirted with her and said things like `give us a kiss baby!`. Bit more fun, is this still asking in a bad way do you think? I am trying to do this without talking most of the time. Lean in a little, if she doesnt move I will kiss her cheek. etc... I do want that first kiss to be special, and I do have to admit that having asked for a kiss in the evening before bed and getting it is not as special as having romanced her for a while, and then it spontaneously happening one evening after a romantic dinner.
I have got the movie, just need to sit down and watch it now.

Unfortunatly I have put the babys birth as a kind of date in my mind. I wanted things to be ok by then, as I think that we will have to put `us` on hold for a while then. I would like us to be ok when we go `on hold`. And as for the physical intimacy... dont think that is going to happen for a while after the birth. I need to go back to my initial response of resigning myself to no sex in 2008 I think. Then if it happens it will be a very pleasent bonus.
W wants to go to Japan for a couple of months in Oct and Nov, assuming that the baby is ok. She wants to go and see her mum. Let her mum take care of her. I said that I might be able to get that time too, but if she prefer to be alone then just let me know. She said she has no problem with me going. I think that would be nice, a couple of months away from work and all the stresses of this area.

Hi Lori

Wow Steve. I don't know if you realize it, but letting you feel her belly when the baby kicked is a big deal! That is a HUGE moment in any R and pregnancy. It is wonderful that she is sharing that with you.

It was really great!!!!!!

Hi Kerry

I am impressed that he went from 42 inch jeans to a 32 inch jeans. That is an amazing 25% reduction! Also, I am curious, but I thought the UK was using the metric system - are inches still used?

Bit of both. Supposed to use the metric, but we also have imperial for those that dont get it. I am proud of my 25% too.

Last night W was up about 3am. Was a bit sick, so I got up to see if I could help. She went back to her room, I went in to see if she wanted me to get her a drink or anything. She said `do you want to sleep in here? I know you want to, come on then` So I did. So that was great, first time I was invited back!!

Cheers

Steve