I want more than he wants to give me, i'm really tired of pretending and it's so hard to keep my mouth shut all the time. I would like some more help from him with our son and some more responsiblity but all he does is "hang out with the guys". I know I should be happy he is making small steps but now they just seem to be too small. I dont know what to do....
I think what has helped for me is that I lowered my expectations about H. I don't really expect much from him so when he does come through it is just a pleasant surprise for me.
My H was acting a lot like your husband last year spending his free time with friends & OW and I think that really hurt my D8 esp. But since H realized the kids weren't that upset or caring that much when he moved out, he has been making a great effort to spend time with them, much more than when he was living with us. Maybe your H has to just come to that kind of realization as well before he will start acting in a better way? Karen
