online gaming is mostly 14-25-ish. then it tapers off.
Not too many people over 30. but quite a lot under.

your situation does not sound good \:\(
not good from the standpoint of, actually having a GREAT marriage, as opposed to, "well, we'll peacably live together".

I'm guessing that:

- in the past, he took you for granted
- the lack of positive attention, made you crave attention from someone else
- that's what got you into the EA
- he's never accepted/acknowleged his influence pushing you towards that.

maybe it's time to forget talking about "the marriage" in general, and start talking about that very specific part of your marriage that is the problem.

If I'm right about my summary above... then I might suggest that one day(and one day SOON!), you'll need to get "in his face" about it.

Perhaps along the lines of,

"yes, what I did was wrong... but the way you treated me was wrong, too. ANd I DIDNT have a physical affair. So dont treat me like I did. stop punishing me, or treating me like a second class citizen, and start loving me?

I STOPPED doing what i was doing wrong, and decided to work on our marriage. But I wont be the only one.
If you want to be married to me... then treat me as a WIFE, not a roommate/cook?! Give me the attention that EVERY wife needs, or eventually, you will drive me away again. I have feelings. Take care of them. Take care of me. "


the longer you wait, the worse it will get, because he will presumably feel like, "well, you were fine with it all this time, so you're the one with the problem..."


Last edited by Dom R; 04/08/08 04:16 AM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle