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Hey all! Thanks for the well-wishes. I had such a GREAT weekend!!!

His family and I really hit it off. It was so much fun. There are many things that I understand better about him now. His mother was treating me like I was already her daughter.
I am so grateful and appreciative.

No news with the situation of my mother yet. THank you for prayer. I really believe in it.

Now it's back to work and effort put forth to improve my work situation. I also need to get back to the gym.

I, like everyone else here is slowly rebuilding their life after the slaughter they were put through. It's nice to see when the baby steps of effort come to fruition.

Goals:
Improve my income situation.
Get a regular exercise regime happening.
Appreciate the good things I have going on.
Focus on the positive.
Get a regular meditation practise happening.

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How am I doing on my goals?

I went to a new gym last night AND worked out.
I have been appreciating the good things that I have going on.
I have been focusing on the positive.
I meditated last night and also this morning.

I need to improve my income situation.

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How hard is it to trust a new person after everything we've been through?

As hard as you make it.

For me, I make it really hard on myself at times.

Trust ultimately has to be a choice. I know it's the right one. I'm trying to keep my thoughts aligned in this direction.

For anyone who is still angry and wants to sue the person who helped their spouse cheat- look into tort law.

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Hi Whitelight:

Is there a Statute of Limitations on it? I think you should be able to sue the person who stole your spouse, especially when it was pre-meditated like mine and my children and I lost so much. Not many crimes as bad in my opinion.

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Originally Posted By: whitelight

Trust ultimately has to be a choice.


I came to this conclusion also, WL. I decided that I needed to make a decision to trust. I know that sounds a lot simpler than it is, but it is the first step. I decided that I'd given stbx enough of my life, and by not trusting any other man, I was giving him ever more. Enough is enough!

Good work on the goals!

Nicola


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Hi WL,

I like your Goals. They are realistic and to the point. Congrats as well on the follow thru.

I think that the trust question is one that we all worry we'll never be able to get back, but luckily we do. I can't go through life thinking that this will happen again. I have to trust my judgement and rely on what I've learned. I'll admit that it's scary but so well worth it!

I like how nic decided that she'd given stbx enough of her life. Great way to put it!

Love,
Bethie

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Thanks for the encouragement Beth! Yes, Princess, Nic, you are right!

I am working steadily toward the goals I had listed.

Either I'm becoming old enough or wise enough or experienced enough, to come to a marvelous conclusion that the best things in life really are free. The flip side to this is that you can't buy them with money and therefore are much harder to get and much dearer when you do recieve them. Love, Peace of mind, health, being fit, self-esteem, friendship, consideration, integrity, discipline, fulfillment. ;\)

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The flip side to this is that you can't buy them with money and therefore are much harder to get and much dearer when you do recieve them. Love, Peace of mind, health, being fit, self-esteem, friendship, consideration, integrity, discipline, fulfillment. ;\)


Hi WL,

Yes I'd say you have your priorities straight. We all should make our goal one of sticking to the above list.

Have a great weekend!
Do something fun..........
Love,,
Bethie

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Hi there, I agree that being able to trust is a choice but the specific choice has to based on evidence that the person is trustworthy!

I'm glad that you are doing better. I do have a little concern that you felt you were being treated like a daughter by the mother of a man you have been dating for three months and liked it. You might still be more needy than you think. What was that all about?

You have great goals. Keep it up one day at a time:) Wonder

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I wondertooo,

I am needy, it's not more than I think. I'm well aware of it! lol. I just continue to try to not put it off onto someone else and do my best to center myself and continue to create my own fulfilling life.

I was happy to be welcomed into this home and treated really well. He has a very warm and open family and they made me feel right at home. I appreciated and enjoyed this. That's what I meant. She also showed me photos of him as a baby.

I think sometimes when a family lives out of state and you meet them, they take it as things are serious and treat you that way.

In your thirties, I think 3 months is a long enough time to know if a person has potential to get married to. If I dated someone for 3 months and thought that their was no potential for marriage I would break it off.

I was single for over 3 years before this relationship started. I dated over 40 men. Yes, you are right I am still very needy. If you have any advice to continue to strengthen myself, I accept.

The goals are going well. Step by step. ;\) I feel change in the air and this time it is good change!

Whitelight

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