How do i do this in a way that does not trigger a reaction both from H and especially from my boys? It's going to be a real tightrope trick, i fear...
I can only tell you how I did this...gradually!
I started doing more and more things with just the kids or with friends and not inviting W. My boys rarely ask me about this. This is a huge difference between boys and girls (at least on average). Boys tend not to be so relationship focused, so as long as you are GALing and have a PMA, they probably won't get as concerned as you think.
I do think that you need to get more clarity with your H. Remember, 1/2 of what you see and none of what you hear. There is a good chance that he is completely uncertain of what he really wants. Most MLCers want the A to remain a fantasy. This of course can't go on forever, so they start making promises to the OP to keep them on the hook and still looking forward to the day when they are permanently together. 95% of the time, this never happens. DON'T ASSUME! This is your worst enemy. Even worse than snooping.
Best wishes, SD
Me 41 W 41 Kids: S9 S7 Married 16 years Bomb dropped 2/2/07 Still living together! current thread
