RTL - I think I may just withdraw from some of my retirement along with doing a refinance on the equity and let her have the rest of the assets (stocks, mutual funds and cd's). I will be left with no liquid assets, but I can rebuild after a 4-5 years of spousal support. But there is still a chance that my situation may not end in a D.
RTL, your situation is much more serious because you are fighting for something far more important than monetary issues - your D4's benefit.
