You are doing such a good job of looking inside your own heart! That is hard work!!! And you are doing it!! congratulations!!
For once as a 'librarian' I am not sure what to recommend. I know I asked you before, but how do you feel about going to counseling?? It could be SUPER helpful and also make this time feel more fruitful.
I really like H's "act of service"!! he took all that time to do all that research and then report it to you. I'm sorry that he wasn't into talking about less practical matters. I'm wondering... how could you create more opportunities for him to help you out with practical matters? Short of, but perhaps including, purposefully breaking things in your apartment for him to fix? LOL! Actually I am kind of serious about that. Does that mean I'm crazy???
Going with "more of what works, less of what doesn't," maybe it would be good to focus on asking him to help you with things AND finding ways to help HIM with things. I forget, have we nailed H's LL yet? Is it possibly Acts of Service? What ways could you fill his love tank in nonthreatening and friendly ways?
If he isn't up for telling you about his weekend, I'm not sure I would try to ask him out for a drink. It might be better to create opportunities to have him see you for some Practical Reason. that's just my thought.
Essie, I think he is just going through something he needs to get through by himself. In the meantime if you can give him space AND show him that you still care, I think that is what to do!! Living a life of playing with boy toys is not going to satisfy him forever. He may be realizing that already... just give him time.
And in the meantime, I am VERY excited about your trip to NZZZ!!
If an australian is an Aussie, what is someone from new zealand? a new zealander? is there a slang term also??
I just read this great book called 'adventure divas' which had a very exciting chapter about new zealand. It made me want to visit, it sounds like an incredible place RUN BY WOMEN!!!
Keep us posted, I hope I'm not bombarding you with too many questions!!
