I was going to add something about the events I had notified him about but I didn't. I just decided that if he wasn't polite enough to let me know if he was coming that was his problem and I wasn't going to ask him twice. He deserved the thank you. He didn't deserve anything else.
I think you will find this freeing: I know I did. We now get the kids' school calendar via email, and I forward it to their father. I don't say a thing about it: he can see what's going on and either discuss it w/ me or with D11. This was a *huge* step for me b/c I was so used to babying him, and also was concerned about this R with the kids (or at least, that's what I told myself...but that's another story.). But the kids' R with him is HIS resonsibility, not mine. As long as I do MY part to nurture it (i.e. let him know about stuff), I've done my bit.
I also think that having the money deposited directly will be good for you, as it will make you feel more independent. At least, I hope so.
You are doing great Alison!
~Nicola
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