Hope4us' Struggle, part 2

[Hope4us]

Thanks guys. There is no way I'm jumping back saying "woohoo, everything is ok" because, even though she's said she hasn't seen him since last year (it was DEC 8 to be exact) and claims she has no intention of seeing him, she was trying to arrange a meet the week before last. I don't care one bit that you haven't "seen" him, she's continually talking with him, either email, phone, what ever and WANTED to see him only 8 days ago so THE AFFAIR IS NOT OVER.

So, what I do will all depend on what SHE is going to do to make me feel comfortable enough to give us a try. Because there is no way I'm going to put myself out there, give my kids false hope, etc if she's just mailing it in. That isn't going to happen. I'm ok separating right now. I'm done. If she wants to stay here and work on our marriage, then SHE has to be the one to show me how SHE intends to make me feel safe and secure in our marriage. I also think she needs to apologize to the kids and really OMW for what she's done. If she's not willing to do that, I don't know if she's really sincere.

I just hope she wouldn't sink so low as to tell the kids that she wants to try to work it out, not do anything to make me feel safe and then blame our marriage not working on me to the kids.

We'll see what she has to say.