I'm thinking you are NOT a martyr Grace!

But I don't think I quite get why you think the NC could mean you are being one. I guess it comes down to what you think.

Are you thinking that you wish maybe you weren't in NC? and wondering what "coming out" would mean or do to the situation?

Who has the "poor me" perception - you or are you worried about others having it of you?

Nature Girl
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M 15, T 19
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