I wish I'd have had that lesson prior to the conversation that your post wasn't harsh enough...lol. It also appears, although you didn't state it, that you talked less than him and spent more time just listening to him talk. Just an observation from your summary. Regardless, I think you did wonderfully. You stated exactly what you needed. Funny, how observant we are about the small things now. Like if upbeat, pleasant, friendly, how they say "hi"...glad you picked up on the pleasant change in attitude. Makes you feel good when you hear it. That is a positive.
Saw W Sunday picking up 5D - was brief, friendly, and nice. No negative topics, tones, etc...when leaving said "have a nice day" and she said, "u2". About a month ago, she would not have said squat. So, "u2" is a very small difference that is positive.
I really appreciated your response to my post last week when W brought up D stuff. I reflected on it some over the weekend. When I think about it or of other things that I left out of my post, I think about things you wrote and I feel...well, I truly thank you. Her friendliness - especially the contact after latest D talk, her continuing to "prolong" things, and relenting on equal time with 5D are big positives that I can hold onto for now.
Jaw3149 --- quick thoughts, if you don't mind...
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We hung out Wednesday night. We went to a hockey game together. It was like hanging out with a bitchy cousin. I could tell she didn't really want to be hanging out with me. It was even work to make conversation.
I think it is positive that she would consider doing anything, especially an event as involved as going to hockey game with travel, length of time, etc... I hope you get my point, it's not as simple as going to movies or something. However, you describe it where it was almost miserable. Your post read to me like she needs at least some space. Also, it sounds like you were working too hard. You even say it was work to talk. Just thoughts. Just remember, she went and that is a big positive. Mine would not go to that I imagine. Be patient and consistent.
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My PMA - she has made the LRT VERY easy lately!
I went through something similar, I think. When W was just brutally hateful, it was easy for me for a day or maybe a few days. It does help you detach, almost by force, because you just cannot continue to get beat down.
