After 3 long years, H is home

[MichelleLT]

I love the idea of getting frustrated for him. I saw a similar example in DR or DB and the spouse's reaction was amazed/bewildered. Should be an interesting experiment, certainly can't hurt to give it a try.

I'm not sure there's any way to short-circuit the process for him, maybe he needs to get angry and then calm down? Which method seems to result in him calming back down the fastest?

Oh, and on the PT when he deserves it - I have to fight with myself over this mentality as well - but as with most LLs, it's not about whether they deserve it in some fashion. It's about making them feel loved in spite of their faults.