It's been a pretty good week over here. H was off work for the last 4 days and did a bunch of stuff around the house. Cleaned out and reorganized the garage, bought a storage shed for our bicycles and put it together, and did some yard work (even though we have a landscaper!). He also built a small ramp for the boys to jump off of with their bikes! S12 and S8 go off of it with no problem; S3 always acts as if he's going to do it, too, but turns to the right at the last minute to avoid the jump!
Something I need to work on:
H has brought to my attention lately that I don't act as though I love him enough....???....I asked him what he meant, and he said that I don't hug him and initiate closeness enough. He wants oodles and oodles of hugs, lots of kisses on his face, me cuddling up next to him in bed every night, and me making the first move from time to time when it comes to ML. He wants to feel attractive to me; he wants to feel desired by me.
Ok, I guess my H has 3 LLs - WOA, AOS, and PT.
I do love him, so of course, I will try to do more of these things. Sometimes it's hard though because he isn't always acting very desirable. H gets easily frustrated with many things - like when he was assembling the shed; pieces weren't quite fitting together - and blows his top. He shouts, swears, is very short-tempered and highly irritable. If something comes up that has us interact with each other, his "grumpiness" is there, too, and it often feels as though it's being projected onto me or the kids. I know this shouldn't be taken personally. I know that he's just frustrated, but it is REALLY hard to ignore.
I've asked him before, many times, to relax and take a deep breath. He doesn't though. Says he can't, and often gets p*ssed at me for not being more empathetic. WTH??!! So what usually happens is I walk away, and that makes him even angrier.
*Sigh*.....What to do?
Hmmm......Maybe I should act as he does the next time he gets frustrated about something....???....He still has to put the roof together for the shed. I think if it gives him more problems, I'll get p*ssed and share in his irritability.....Say something like, " Geez, what a piece of s**t! Why does this got to be all f***ing complicated?!!" Now THAT would be one heck of a 180!
Seriously though, I think all I can really do is ignore the undesirable behavior, play along when I can, and initiate more PT when he acts like he deserves it . We'll see what happens.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
Geez, what a piece of s**t! Why does this got to be all f***ing complicated?!!" 
Now THAT would be one heck of a 180! 
. We'll see what happens.
