Slippage

[Jack_Three_Beans]

NC - You're supposed to do it for you, and you alone.
But really, deep down, don't/didn't we all want it to provoke a reaction from our spouses?

I did, at first.

I really wanted her to be curious, and realize what she was missing, I got to the point of realizing what I wasn't missing before she got there though...and THAT made reconcilling harder.

I am not complaining, harder is better, it made us both work at this.

Are you a martyr?
Do you feel like one?
Do you like the sympathy of others?
Would you rather hear, "Poor you," or "You seem to be doing well?"

I think that the worry you have about 'other' people's perception... I don't think you're a martyr. The fact that you are worried about it, also a good sign.

Looking hard and long at ourselves honestly...no one is going happy with all they see, the important thing is to change the things we don't like.

I think a martyr would complain more and do less.