Because I read somewhere that as long as we feel the victim of what has been 'done' to us, that we cannot heal. We need to stand up and realize that it is not done TO us, and that we can stand up to it and for ourselves. Once that happens, the healing starts....
I think that that is the point that it is no longer important whether you have NC or not...at that point a new relationship starts and we go on from there.
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
