I think we are in a rut

[Starshyne]

My message to you disappeared! This computer at work has been acting strange, maybe that is why.

What I had said was that I think it is good to set timelines like you have. It helps you not feel like you are in limbo and makes things seem more manageable. Good for you!

If your H does not make the car payment, keep silent. I have done this with my H and his student loan. He has missed 2 payments and realized it yesterday. He got really mad at me about it. Said that he couldn't trust me (ummmm...yeah, I never cheated on him). But he got over it quickly. I think he realized that I can't take care of his bills for him anymore.

But he might not make a payment and you have to remember that it is not your job to make sure he remembers. That has driven me crazy because knowing the due date for that bill is near and it still lays there unopened...ahhh..

Sara