Yep, I had a good time this weekend. Hung out with my friends and also my mother a lot. My mother went through this about 5 years ago and is SO understanding of everything. I don't know what I would do without her. She is even the one that told me about this site.

I do have some boundaries. I know what I want and I know what I need to make this marriage work...I also need him to tell me what he wants and what he needs. Last time I didn't have any requirements, I just wanted him back. I don't think at the time I was strong enough to lay down boundaries. Now I am.

I did wait H out! I am so proud of myself. My next thing will be not to "mother" him about the car payment that will be due next week. Any suggestions on how to handle that? He should have the money to pay it, but I shouldn't have to remind him every month.

I won't ask him anymore about this weekend. I think that was the first time I had brought it up. I just wanted him to know he was welcome. I know he won't come. I won't mention it again.

I almost feel a sense of peace right now. I want our M to work...but I don't feel so needy and desperate.

Kris